Welcome to Yahweh’s Restoration Ministry’s dedicated blog-spot just for women! On this site, you will find scriptural helps, daily happenings, a calendar of events, children’s class schedules, prayer requests, and so forth. Enjoy and may Yahweh bless!
So excited for this online help!
-Amy
Great idea!
This is a great forum Amy. I’ll like not having to sift through games and other postings to be inspired and uplifted!
May Yahweh bless you dear Sister, and may your pain and discomfort leave you immediately, In Messiah Yahshua.
Please someone help me, I am trying to be a good wife, and mother, but I can’t seem to be. I spend too much money on house hold things and our children, and when I get to a point where we are behind instead of going to my husband I try to fix the problem by cashing checks from stores then putting them in the bank and it keeps spiraling. I have been praying for help and I do believe my prayers were answered. Our bank account was closed but the one thing that hurts me so bad has happened. My husband seems to hate me. I have said that I am sorry over and over and have even said that I want him to take away all of my control over the finances. He told me that I am a failier because I cant obey him and do my job, the only thing I can do is babysit our children. I need help. I do not want to be a failier and I do not want to be evil. It is expected of me to have unconditional love when he falls short but if I do I am worthless and he has no one. I have no friends to talk to because everyone thinks I should be more liberal and I am not a strong enough woman. My husband says that I am weak and a test sent to him from the devil. I don’t know what I am. All I know is that I rely on my husband to provide for me and I try but I always seem to spend too much here or there and in the end I don’t have enough and am afraid to tell him. Please some one help me to know what to do. Am I a failier because I can not handle our finances? If I am how do I fix myself? I do not want to be evil.
Prayer and faith will see you through. We all fall short, and believe that confessing your wrongdoings to your husband was a wonderful first step. I am not a professional therapist or an elder . . . just a simple housewife and mother of five children who loves Yahweh. We are called to obedience as believers. Keeping things from your husband is wrong, but I can tell you I’m guilty in this area as well (past), as I have managed our finances for many years. It’s hard squeezing money from lemons (what it feels like sometimes) to pay bills . . . and sometimes you feel like you’re borrowing from one source to pay another, just to find yourself deeper in debt at the end of the day. And, I also understand your want to buy things for the home and the children, but as you said, if you’re family is struggling financially, then something needs to change in your spending habits. Trust me, I understand the struggle, and perhaps that is what I can best offer you–understanding. For me, in the past, I bought things for the children so they wouldn’t know we were struggling. It was a temporary feel-good for me, but buyer’s remorse always set in, because I didn’t always have money to pay the monthly bills. It’s so unwise to live outside of your means. My advice is to create a monthly budget–just a simple one, where you detail your money coming in and compare it to you money going out (bills and expenses of necessity, like groceries, having priority). Sometimes actually seeing something in writing is a great eye-opener. But, even more, you’ll need discipline to follow a budget you establish. Pray for this. You can overcome the desire to buy when you know you shouldn’t. And, lastly, your husband may not “feel” you apology because of you doing the same error over and over . . . I have found that actions speak louder than words. SHOW HIM you’re sorry by making things right and doing right by him and for your family. Sister, I will pray for you. We must always proclaim and believe that Yahweh is stronger than any evil set before us and we CAN overcome! Give Him the praise in this situation . . . perhaps He’s letting your struggle as punishment for the wrongdoing, but you are here asking for prayer, which means you must have conviction, which means He hasn’t left you. There IS hope! We are not perfect. We all fall short. Life is a journey . . . such a bumpy journey. Keep your eyes on Yahweh and prayer for the knowledge and wisdom to make this wrong right. You will find victory!
Thank you very much. I have tried to form a budget for our family. My husband never wanted much thought of it. To be truthful, for what I spend most of the time we do have the money, or at least my husband does. Because of statements he makes and hurtful things he says, makes me have fear to come to him. He says that it is a ridiculous excuse and I’m just making excuses for my self, but I”m not. I tell him that I can not handle the finances, he tells me its because I don’t want any responsibility. He says it is simple but I can not find the simplicity in it. Today I asked him to help me overcome this, he said he can not help me. When he is angry he says cruel things, so cruel that those words have left me feeling worthless, and it comes back to the same point. I fear him more than I fear Yahweh, and begin to do irrational things. I do believe that this is an answer to my prayers. It has forced me to take steps closer to finding the knowledge. But I feel like I am alone. My husband thinks its just an excuse but fear, anger and pride has consumed my heart. In everything I do wrong, I am evil. In everything he does wrong, it is justified because I made him angry and I was disobedient towards him and I started it. This in return makes me not able to come to him for any reason whether it be that I need $100 or that I feel bad that day. I try but then I find myself using the money for the electric bill for what I spent at the store and then using the money for what I spent at the store, because I told him it was less than I spent for the phone bill, then in the end on Tuesday morning, if I don’t put money in the bank we’ll be overdrawn, so I go and write a check for cash, put that in the bank and before that comes out ask him for money to go to the store, put that money in the bank so the checks will clear and pay for everything I need at the store with a check. And it goes on and on for month after month. I get caught up and then find myself behind again. I do not want to be this person. I do not want to feel this way. I am ashamed of who I am. All my life I have had no one to teach me. My parents were selfish in their own ways. I was not raised to believe in any word. I had our daughter when I was sixteen, then I suffered two miscarriages then I had our oldest son. At that time I felt alone. When our son turned a year old I was pregnant with our second son. Six years later I had our youngest son. With each pregnancy I felt like I was a burden to my husband. My husbands family always treated me badly, even though I was the one that would always help them. I tried to explain to him today that we need to work together to stop this viscous cycle. But he says I need to change first. Can you please help me? Can you show me some guidance so that I can be a better person? I told my husband that I can not handle the finances anymore. I want to isolate myself from the world, I do not want to leave my house.
Scriptures for edification and reflection:
Philippians 4:19
1 Timothy 6:10
Proverbs 22:7
Matthew 6:33
1 Timothy 6:9-10
Cast your cares upon the waters, and pray . . . He is faithful to receive us.
Yahweh bless!
Today was a better day. Since Friday I have asked whole heartedly my husband for the help I need from him, in return to get the answer I can’t help you, or he can not be compassionate. I woke up this morning crying ready to argue for yet another day… and it did start out that way, but then he left for work. As soon as he drove out the driveway, I took my cup of coffee into our room, sat on our bed and began to read. I called him to reads him a few scriptures, not to point out his failures but to face my own, but he didn’t see it that way. So I sat alone and started to think… and think… and think, and also pray. I came to an conclusion. Our house is filled with anger, deceit, wrath, bitterness towards each other and no one’s heart is fully opened to Yahweh… So I did what my thoughts compelled me to do, I turned to our children. At 9:00 am we sat in the living room altogether with pencils in hand and paper on our laps facing our own short comings and reading scriptures to teach us to be better servants to Yahweh. I explained each scripture, I listened to their understanding and we did this for three hours. And then we took two scriptures to apply to our own behavior throughout the rest of the day. (1Peter 3: 8-9) It was not a “perfect” day but it was a great start. After I cleaned up the house they came in to make cookies. I told them they had to work together, be courteous and no arguing, yelling, or fighting. They were not to come to me, they would have to resolve the conflict themselves. After the cookies were finished we sat down, wrote how we applied and didn’t these two scriptures to our behavior, even me. We wrote and read each one. Without telling them to each apologized to the one they were hateful to. They asked questions and they answered questions. We read more scriptures and finally ended in prayer each one of my children praying for each other and their parents. While they were cleaning up the living room, one of our sons said he really liked doing this. As we are letting go of the world and all its evil, Yahweh is beginning to enter. Please keep praying for us that we don’t come to a pleasant place and start falling away. I am beginning to feel that there is hope for me to be a good mother and wife. A better teacher to teacher my children righteousness.
I am new to this website, I just stumbled upon YRM page yesterday & it has been blessing me ever since!! Then I found a link to this Sisters page. I just wanted to tell Julie, that I cried when I read your comments & your story has inspired me to be a better wife & mother. I am a stay at home mother of 3 and I struggle with similar issues. You are a beautiful, strong woman, keep fighting the good fight!!
May Yahweh Bless You!!
Renee,
Welcome! Let us continue to encourage and share in one another’s burdens and victories.
Shalom,
Amy
Thank You Amy!!